viostormcaller:

ladyinsertnamehere:

viostormcaller:

chessys:

the quicksand we all thought we were gonna have to face was just a metaphor for depression lads

But! We know how to get ourselves out of quicksand! And while we can’t really “get out of” depression, we can keep ourselves from being submerged in it.

By…lying on our backs and waiting for help?

Nope! Cuz that’s not how you get outta quicksand. Lying and waiting won’t do you any good (especially the lying part), but you can get out yourself!

To get outta quicksand, first you gotta:

  1. Stay calm. You won’t get out any easier by panicking, and it might make things worse. Take a deep breath and try to relax as best you can
  2. Step back. If you can still get to solid ground, step backwards; but not really big steps, because those will use up your energy quickly.
  3. Lighten yourself up. If you can’t get to solid ground, the best thing you can do is to get rid of any loose and/or heavy articles of clothing.
  4. Spread yourself out. If you have something like a walking stick, lay it horizontally behind you and lean back slowly onto it. It’ll stop you from sinking. If you don’t have a stick, though, again slowly lean back and (still slowly) wiggle your feet to allow more space for water to move around them. This will help free your feet.
  5. Slowly get to solid ground. Once your feet are free, you can slowly get to more stable land by paddling. Might take a lil bit, but you can do it!

This is the source I used btw (x)

Similarly, with depression you should:

  1. Stay calm. Don’t panic or do anything drastic. If all you can do now is breathe, then do that.
  2. Take a step back. If you’re doing really bad, reflect on how you’re feeling. Have you eaten or drank anything recently? Have you talked or connected with anyone else? Have you been getting enough rest? Have you been able to get some fresh air or clean yourself up? Take care of your needs to the best of your ability, then reflect again. Do you feel any better?
  3. Give yourself something to look forward to. It’s hard to maintain a positive mindset when you’re depressed and don’t have much energy to spare. However, almost everyone has that little something that makes their day just the least bit better, even if they don’t notice it. Find that something and hold onto it. If it gets you to the next day (and isn’t harmful!) then it’s perfect, no matter what it is.
  4. Spread out, but not thin. Don’t confine yourself to one space. I know mustering up the energy to move is difficult, but staying in one place all day every day is unhealthy. If you can, try spending time in different areas of your home. Even better if you can find the energy to leave the house and get outside for a while. But don’t overexert yourself.
  5. Take it slow, but take it. Recovery is a slow-going, non-linear process. You can’t do it all alone, either. Find that crutch, that support system, that (healthy) coping mechanism, and let it help you. It is going to get better. It may not seem like it right now, but trust me when I say that it will. If not soon, then eventually. Hold on until then. When that day comes, you’ll find it all to be worth it, but for now, take life one minute at a time. And please, allow yourself to feel out your feelings. You’ll feel better if you do. Don’t hold them back.

It’s in human nature to help people. There are people out there who want to help you, whose job is to support you. Speaking as someone who to this day still has a hard time asking for help (and who also has depression), it’s important to realize that bottling everything up and trying to do everything yourself is much more harmful than good. Sure, you can do some things on your own and make yourself feel better, but as social creatures, we shouldn’t completely isolate ourselves in favor of total independence.

There are plenty of helplines you can call, text lines you can message, and support groups you can join. I know it’s scary. Hell, it’s terrifying. But you can do this, you can get through this. I know you can, and the people who want to help you know you can.

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For those who have trouble reading text on a pic, it says:

“I’ve officially been meditating for an entire year. I cannot emphasize enough how much it’s changed my life. I went through a three year period of waking up daily with anxiety and depression. I couldn’t control my emotions and I believed every thought I had. I wasn’t able to let anything go and it made me an angry, bitter person who saw the world as an evil place full of negative people who are all out to get each other.

“But once I started meditating, over time, I began to disassociate with my ego. I began to see that we are all the infinite consciousness behind our egos and that we not only have the power to observe our thoughts, not BE our thoughts, but also laugh at those thoughts when they get ridiculous.

“Today I’m in the best place I’ve ever been in. I see the world as a much different place than I used to – the place it truly is – full of love and compassion. I spend at least 1 hour every day feeding both my mind and body – my mind through meditation and reading, and my body through running and wieghtlifting. I found purpose again.

“I want to thank Ellevan for introducing me to this life changing practice, and to Calm.com for giving me the tools every day to continue being mindful and improving my consciousness daily.

“If any of you struggle with any of the things I mentioned above, I highly encourage you to try meditation in any form you are most comfortable with. Take a class, download Calm, HeadSpace, or any of the other meditation apps in the App Store, or just try sitting silently for 10 minutes a day. I promise you, over time, your life will be changed. 🙏🏻💫🧘🏻‍♂️🧘🏽‍♀️”

For those who have trouble reading text on a pic, it says:

“I’ve officially been meditating for an entire year. I cannot emphasize enough how much it’s changed my life. I went through a three year period of waking up daily with anxiety and depression. I couldn’t control my emotions and I believed every thought I had. I wasn’t able to let anything go and it made me an angry, bitter person who saw the world as an evil place full of negative people who are all out to get each other.

“But once I started meditating, over time, I began to disassociate with my ego. I began to see that we are all the infinite consciousness behind our egos and that we not only have the power to observe our thoughts, not BE our thoughts, but also laugh at those thoughts when they get ridiculous.

“Today I’m in the best place I’ve ever been in. I see the world as a much different place than I used to – the place it truly is – full of love and compassion. I spend at least 1 hour every day feeding both my mind and body – my mind through meditation and reading, and my body through running and wieghtlifting. I found purpose again.

“I want to thank Ellevan for introducing me to this life changing practice, and to Calm.com for giving me the tools every day to continue being mindful and improving my consciousness daily.

“If any of you struggle with any of the things I mentioned above, I highly encourage you to try meditation in any form you are most comfortable with. Take a class, download Calm, HeadSpace, or any of the other meditation apps in the App Store, or just try sitting silently for 10 minutes a day. I promise you, over time, your life will be changed. 🙏🏻💫🧘🏻‍♂️🧘🏽‍♀️”

booperdoopcr:

Been going to therapy myself for several months now, partly cos you helped motivate me to finally reach out for help. It’s lovely to have someone to talk to and help me with my anxiety, and it warms my heart to see your experience going well too! ^-^ 💚

1) Thank heavens for Medicaid. I wouldn’t be able to get therapy + meds if I didn’t have it.

2) I’m grateful for the therapists, clinicians, psychiatrists and nurses who helped me over the last 6 years. Without them, I wouldn’t have come as far as I have.

3) Getting into therapy happened because I had hit bottom and realised I couldn’t “fix it” on my own. I chose the hospital and getting help over despair. I continue to make that choice every day.

4) On this journey, there’s no destination. Mental health is a process, something to be maintained. Some days are better than others, but you have to keep trying, you have to keep moving forward.

5) Life is ALWAYS a better option, no matter what your depression might tell you. You don’t get any second chances when you’re dead.

booperdoopcr:

Been going to therapy myself for several months now, partly cos you helped motivate me to finally reach out for help. It’s lovely to have someone to talk to and help me with my anxiety, and it warms my heart to see your experience going well too! ^-^ 💚

1) Thank heavens for Medicaid. I wouldn’t be able to get therapy + meds if I didn’t have it.

2) I’m grateful for the therapists, clinicians, psychiatrists and nurses who helped me over the last 6 years. Without them, I wouldn’t have come as far as I have.

3) Getting into therapy happened because I had hit bottom and realised I couldn’t “fix it” on my own. I chose the hospital and getting help over despair. I continue to make that choice every day.

4) On this journey, there’s no destination. Mental health is a process, something to be maintained. Some days are better than others, but you have to keep trying, you have to keep moving forward.

5) Life is ALWAYS a better option, no matter what your depression might tell you. You don’t get any second chances when you’re dead.